I still remember the words uttered by my uncle as soon as I was out of my schooling. “That’s it Akshatha, no more you a permanent resident of your house, you will also visit your house like any other guests”. I had opposed it and could not agree to that point at that time. But now I feel yes, I have been adorned with the guest attire for the past 8 years. Today I have almost spent 8 years away from my house and still wandering amidst my house here, office, weekend hang outs with friends etc…
In my opinion this has been a wonderful chance or opportunity that has paved way for me to learn many valuable things in the journey of life. Today I would journal those experiences here which I feel are worth sharing and I am sure many would agree to my experiences:
Normally parents are very scared to let their kids stay away from them, fearing they would end up in some wrong road. I feel after a certain age it is ok to let the kids stay away and learn from their experiences. Parents can always have an eye on their children and advice if they redundantly commit some mistakes…Self learning or self experience is always the best teacher I feel…This was the case with me….. Although I was out of home after my schooling, I was given with all the freedom, but was closely monitored and directed by parents…
4 years I spent my days in hostel when I first got the chance of handling expenses…My dad used to credit money monthly for my expenses and I had to manage them carefully…. Next I met different set of people, learned how to mingle/adjust with them…. And then came the lesson of organize… I had to manage the things I required daily, like washing clothes on my own, keeping my place clean, getting accustomed to any kind of food and so on…When I was at home I used to have certain restriction with the vegetables/food I used to take…but you are away from home you come to know the value of money, home food J etc….. Additionally you develop some responsibility for self…Over these years when you understand the value of each amenity required to live a beautiful life..you tend to study well or open your eyes and look out for good career opportunities… These push needn’t come from the parents, it will automatically come into ourselves when we are let alone to come up on our own…. If the parents habituate their kids with spoon feeding out of over affection then it might end up in trouble when the children grow up and are suddenly made to take responsibilities.... These responsible thinking will come gradually out of self learning........
So I was out of my college as a nice graduate though I did not end up in any good campus placements… Then started the job hunt…. I was jobless for few months..Luckily I had my bro who was additionally supporting me along with my parents… Now I enter a new city in search of my job…. Everything looks very new and complicated at the beginning… Since my bro use to go for work and was busy with his professional life..I had to get myself comfortable with the new world…
I can’t sit at home 24 hours throughout…had to step out at least twice a day for food or some kinda mental refreshment and mainly visit companies, drop the resume and attend interviews..This when I crossed the chapters of communication, confidence etc… I learnt to roam around in buses on my own (which was not the case before..i.e my dad or uncle used to care for all such matter), communicate with various strangers and look out/aspire for what I wanted… this phase kinda taught me to become more independent or even I can say it made me understand the significance of being independent…
Next comes the episode of professional experience and I am still learning there…. It is when I became completely independent after finding a job…. This is a great experience..at the initial phase you feel very nice..Money starts flowing in your hand and you start having fun with friends, you feel like presenting gifts to your loved ones.. You feel great doing it…. After a period of time here again you get to learn to have control over your expenses, valuing people and so on….. Additionally you get an exposure as to how to align your behavior in a professional, respectful ways. We get to meet various high executives and learn how to present yourself…….
Although this journey away from home leaves behind many good experiences, it can be worse if it is not carefully understood or watched by the elders. It can sometime addict an individual to isolation. Having an independent house, and having learnt to manage everything independently sometime we might lose thought of our family…This could be possible…. As you become busy moving around house-office-hang outs, you get less time to think about your family… The focus at this time until we settle properly would be just to keep jumping high and high in the ladder of career, and keeping forging ahead in the quest of our achievements….
It was the case with me for past few months when I had hectic work in the office….I was unable to spend time with my family members and kind of bothered my parents… So this time I got the chance to go through the chapter of time management and learn how to mange and do my work effectively and so on…
At last this ongoing journey away from my home has given me nice fruitful lessons, aligned my thinking, and built more confidence. Overall it has been a joyous experience….
That’s all for today!
Cheers,
Akshatha
